Code of Conduct

Lasso exists for one of the most consequential decisions a person can make: building a family. Everyone here is trusting strangers with hopes they may never have said out loud before. That trust is the whole platform. This Code of Conduct is how we protect it. It applies to everything you do on Lasso — your profile, your Reflection, your nominations, and your conversations — and it is part of our Terms of Service.

Be real

• Use your real identity. No invented names, ages, locations, or life circumstances.
• Answer the Reflection as yourself — the person you are, not the person you think scores well. Misrepresenting your values wastes months of someone else's life.
• Your own words, your own thinking. If you lean on AI or a friend to polish a message, the substance must still be true of you.
• Be honest about deal-breakers early: existing relationships, fertility circumstances, financial constraints, geographic limits.

Be serious

• Lasso is for people genuinely exploring family formation. It is not a dating app, a curiosity, or a place to browse people.
• Respect the pace of the structured conversations. The weekly prompts exist so that hard topics get discussed before commitments get made.
• If you realize a match isn't right, say so kindly and directly. Ghosting someone mid-way through conversations about having children together is a conduct violation, not just bad manners.
• Only nominate people you actually know and would genuinely vouch for as a co-parent.

Be safe and respectful

• No harassment, threats, hate speech, or discrimination — including on the basis of race, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity, disability, or family structure.
• Respect stated boundaries absolutely. If someone's profile says platonic, that conversation is closed unless they reopen it.
• No sexual content or advances toward users who haven't invited them. Most Lasso relationships are intentionally non-romantic.
• No requests for money, and no commercial activity of any kind — solicitation, recruiting, selling services.
• Never share another user's profile, messages, photos, or identity outside Lasso without their explicit consent.

Meeting in person

• Take your time. The eight-week conversation structure exists for a reason — you are not behind schedule.
• First meetings: public place, tell someone you trust where you'll be, arrange your own transportation.
• Before any binding step — conception, cohabitation, financial commitments — involve a licensed attorney. Verbal agreements about children are not enough, anywhere.

Reporting

If someone violates this Code, report them — from their match card or from inside a conversation. Reports are confidential; the person reported is never told who reported them. When reporting from a conversation, you can choose to attach your copy of recent messages so our safety team can see what happened. We review every report and act on them: warnings, suspensions, or permanent bans. If you ever feel physically unsafe, contact local emergency services first — then tell us.

One more thing

This process can stir up loneliness, grief, and hope in equal measure. If it ever feels heavy, that's not a failure — talk to someone. In the US, you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) any time, or text HOME to 741741 (Crisis Text Line). Taking care of yourself is part of being ready to take care of someone else.